Case Study – Coffeeshop Approach

 

An approach one of my clients did at a Starbucks.

The following is a true story. For simplicity’s sake, I’ll put my client’s perspective into first-person point of view. Follow along, and ask yourself how you would react. If you haven’t tried many approaches (if any), even reading this piece might be a little nerve racking for you. But hey, we all have to start somewhere! I highly recommend the post on “The 4-Step Technique” to know what’s going on in this case study.

Scene:

You just ordered your coffee at Starbucks. Your target is a brunette with blonde streaks sitting alone at a long table.

Approaching Women: My 4-Step Technique, plus a Case Study of a grocery store approach

Approaching women – not your greatest strength? Not to worry. This post will explain a technique I taught my clients.

Approaching is THE most nerve-racking part of (the potential start of) a relationship. Trust me, it’ll get easier after a few rejections. (And you likely will get rejected at least once. We all have. It’s part of the learning experience.) This post will teach you how to read females with a quick glance, using that information to strike up a conversation, and keep them engaged.

The Approach

This is a technique I have fine-tuned to be as fool-proof as possible. But of course, it still depends on you, her, the place, the time, the weather, the dog scratching itself outside, and so on. There are too many undeterminable factors when it comes to approaching women, so it’s never a sure thing. Without getting into specifics, this is the general procedure of my approach. 

Keeping well groomed: What women really think (Hint: It’s not just aesthetics)

A lot of the following may seem trivial, but you’d be surprised at how often I hear women complaining about certain habits (or lack thereof) that us men have. This the twenty-first century. Women like men who give a damn about how they present themselves. I’ll also discuss how women think of you just by the way you maintain yourself. It’s not just so you’ll be easier on the eyes.

Dress to attract women without breaking the bank – The fool-proof outfit with the “secret touch”

A well-dressed young man. Not really your style? Don’t worry. I’ll touch on personalization.

One of the most common questions I get asked by my clients are “how should I dress on a date?” And my answer is always the same. “It depends.” It depends where you’re going, which date this is, what her style is, your own personality, and so on. In this post, I will explain to you what the “fool-proof outfit with the secret touch” is to impress women. (Hint: it’s not a thousand-dollar suit, and you may already be sporting something similar!) Some of you are probably getting sweaty and gripping your wallets. But the truth is, it doesn’t have to be expensive. You might be pleasantly surprised at how little it costs to be well dressed.

If you don’t know where to start, I generally tell clients to err towards the current trends. Flip through a GQ magazine, take notice of people who are around your age with attractive significant others. A well dressed man will always trump a sloppily dressed man. Lose the baggy jeans and baseball caps. Lose the shirts plastered in tacky logos.

I have surveyed 100 women aged 25 to 45 (25 different women in every 5-year bracket) to find out what outfit they find most attractive on a man. Regardless of age, the answer was almost unanimous (most of them also mentioned a “special touch” which I’ll explain). I have generalized the descriptions piece-by-piece. A lot of you are probably already following this template already!

Hello, World! Self-introduction, and the purpose of this blog

Beautiful British Columbia. Photo credit: crileyphotography.com

My name is JJ Thomas (it’s a pseudonym, don’t bother googling), and I’m from Vancouver, BC. I have been coaching clients of all ages for over three years now, to score the man or woman of their dreams. (Yes, very Hitch-like.) I figure I can expand my knowledge and learning with this blog. I hope to be able to help more people. I’ll be sharing mainly dating advice, but will touch on everything from food to fashion to gifts to vacations. I’ll try to answer any questions you may have as well.

A few things to note:

– I am a male in my late 20’s. Don’t let that fool you, I have not let a single client down in the three years I have been coaching. My youngest client was 19, and the oldest was 52. Most of my clients are male, though I do get the occasional female. Just thought I’d clear that up so there’s no confusion.

– This is not a cheap reiteration of the “pick-up artist” techniques. I had no idea what a pick up artist even was until last year. Don’t lose your sh*t if you discover that there are some similarities. After all, if it works, it works. What you do with these techniques is up to you.

– The purpose of this blog is to teach you how to meet quality partners. How to approach strangers in a non-creepy way. How to go from one point of a relationship to the next. How to keep your partner by your side. How to find the type you want to date, or even spend the rest of your life with.